Friday, 26 November 2010

Such Numbness Exists Today, that nothing “Shocks” Anymore And sin no longer “Offends!”

Such Numbness Exists Today, that nothing “Shocks” Anymore And sin no longer “Offends!”
(Sixth in this Series)

“The temptation to give in to evil comes from us and only us. We have no one to blame but the leering, seducing flare-up of our own lust...”
(James 1:14 The Message Bible).

In today’s article we continue where we left off in the last, with research into official statistics concerning pornography. From today’s figures we quickly determine that certain places “consume” more pornography than others. Take for instance the nationwide study that took place in the US not so long ago, which revealed how “conservatives” were proven the biggest consumers of porn!

We see this in an online article written by Ewen Callaway entitled “Porn in the USA: Conservatives are Biggest Consumers,” back in February 2009 - where he looked into the nationwide study that took place in USA of ‘anonymous credit-card receipts’ from a major online adult entertainment provider that found little variation in consumption between states. However Benjamin Edelman from Harvard Business School said of the study, “When it comes to adult entertainment, it seems people are more the same than different.”

The study found that there were some trends to be observed in the data that they compiled - for instance those particular States that “consumed the most porn” tended to be more “conservative and religious” than those states with the “lower levels of consumption.” Edelman went on to say, “Some of the people, who are most outraged, turn out to be consumers of the very things that they claimed to be outraged by.”

It is interesting that after “controlling” for differences between States, he quickly found the differences between them – for instance those with the “most-adult-purchases” and those with the “fewest.” One discovery he made was that church goers bought less online porn on Sundays, but expenditures on other days of the week came in line with the rest of the country! Such as the residents of the 27 states that passed laws banning gay marriages - who boasted 11% more porn subscribers than those states who don’t explicitly restrict gay marriage!

While he continued looking at the associations between “social attitudes” and “pornography consumption” Edelman discovered that particular States in America, where a majority of its residents agreed with the statement: “I have old-fashioned values about family and marriage,” actually bought 3.6 more subscriptions per thousand people than States where a majority disagreed! Edelman’s natural hypothesis for this was “repression” saying; “...if you’re told you can’t have something, you want it more!”

More statistics continue: as we have seen in this series already - women in particular are specifically targeted by satan whose chief motive and plan is to “steal, kill and destroy” all of humanity and he knows full well that if he can infiltrate the woman (Eve/life-giver) then he can effectively influence everything else as a result! Women are great influencers and have a great deal of power. Satan knows this and wants to pervert it. To do this effectively first he must successfully “distort” everything that a “woman” is meant to be. “Perverting” her (woman) is just one way that he seeks to “destroy” her and all those that she has influence over (Adam!) This inevitably starts very young - as we have seen throughout this series women, essentially our “young-ladies” in particular – are proving to be “hyper-sexual” and “excessively-promiscuous” at a very young age.

In an article called “Women and Pornography” by Jerry Ropelato from the site “Internet Pornography Statistics – ToptenREVIEWS” this is what he said. “According to stats, men are not the only ones to access pornography at work. One in three visitors to pornographic websites are women.

• Women keeping their cyber activities secret – 70%
• Women struggling with pornography addition – 17%
• Ratio of women to men favouring chat rooms – 2x
• Percentage of visitors to adult websites who are women – 1 in 3
• Women accessing adult websites each month – 9.4 million
• Women admitting to accessing pornography at work – 13%

He finishes with this bold statement: “Women, far more than men, are likely to act out their behaviours in real life, such as having multiple partners, casual sex or affairs.”

There are so many official/credible places where this type of information and statistics can be found. Another site called “Statistics on Pornography, Sexual Addiction and Online Perpetrators – Pornography addiction Stats / Pornography and Industry Statistics,” had the following information. (Note: for lack of space or room to cover all of these statistics, I will mention only a limited amount):

• According to the “Internet Filter Review” in 2006 the total porn industry revenue was $13.3 billion in the US; $97 billion worldwide; also 1 billion adult DVD/video rentals.
• More shocking to discover was that there are 72 million “unique” worldwide users visiting adult web sites monthly according to the “Internet Filter Review.” In other words “new” users... Something that will have accelerated since this study took place and is something genuinely “alarming.” Satan’s agenda to steal kill and destroy is impacting our: cultures, societies and populations from the very “inside-out.” Perversion infiltrates our world from every angle.
• The number of hardcore pornography titles released in 2005 (US): 13,588 (Internet Filter Review).
• More than 70% of men from 18-34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month (comScore Media Metrix)
• More than 20,000 images of child pornography posted online every week (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children, 10/8/03)
• Approximately 20% of all internet pornography involves children (National Centre for Mission & Exploited Children).
• 100,000 websites offer illegal child pornography (U.S. Customs Service estimate).
• As of December 2005, child pornography was a $3 billion annual industry (Internet Filter Review)
Official statistics exist, that specifically reveal the consumption of pornography by “Christians, Pastors and Church goers.” Take for instance the “Promise Keepers” survey that was conducted at one of their stadium events, which revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance - were involved with pornography within “one week” of attending the event. (Promise Keepers is a large men’s ministry in the U.S. with the slogan “Men of Integrity!”)
• 51% of pastors say cyber-porn is a possible temptation. 37% say it is a current struggle (Christianity Today, Leadership Survey, 12/2001).
• Over half of evangelical pastors admits viewing pornography last year.
• Roger Charman of Focus on the Family's Pastoral Ministries reports that approximately 20 percent of the calls received on their Pastoral Care Line are for help with issues such as pornography and compulsive sexual behavior.
• In a 2000 Christianity Today survey, 33% of clergy admitted to having visited a sexually explicit Web site. Of those who had visited a porn site, 53% had visited such sites “a few times” in the past year, and 18% visit sexually explicit sites between a couple of times a month and more than once a week.
29% of born again adults in the U.S. feel it is “morally acceptable” to view movies with explicit sexual behaviour (The Barna Group).
• 57% of pastors say that addiction to pornography is the most sexually damaging issue to their congregation (Christians and Sex Leadership Journal Survey, March 2005).

We could go on and on with these statistics but already it’s evident that our standards of morality are slipping and gradually being whittled down to zero. Our moral “acceptance-levels” are at an all time low – and getting “worse” according to these statistics. In addition Christians are certainly not exempt from the “realities” of life, something that has been proven time and again - that even our “moral-compass” has slipped and is slipping still! Every single one of us is capable of being vehemently “outraged” about the very thing our “humanity” struggles with the most! So it has to be said that only the spiritually strong will survive; those strong in “faith.” We live in particular time in history, where life as we know it is being profoundly and sexually “super-charged” with much evil - intent and purpose. This we cannot treat casually - as scripture warns us; “If the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:18 KJV) Also in James 1:27 it says, “...keep ...unspotted from the world” and “...keep thyself pure” (1 Tim 5:22 KJV).

Yes we know that to the pure - all things are pure – but we must relentlessly “pursue” purity and even “militantly” keep ourselves pure...! Not from religious “piety” but motivated from true “godliness.” Something that must be achieved in a world that no long recognises “purity” as a quality to be desired or chased after! In fact it is true to say that in today’s world, “perversity” is celebrated and “restraint” is a taboo! Now more than ever, it is so critical for us to stay spiritually “awake” and not to fall captive to the same kind of “numbness” that afflicts the world around us. It could be said that such numbness exists today – to the point that nothing “shocks” us anymore and sin no longer “offends!”

Statistics on Women with Pornography Addiction:
• 28% those admitting to sexual addiction are women (
• 34% of female readers of Today's Christian Woman's online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll and 1 out of every 6 women, including Christians, struggles with an addiction to pornography (Today’s Christian Woman, Fall 2003).
Statistics on Pornography's Effect on Families and Marriages:
• 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home (Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003).
• The Internet was a significant factor in 2 out of 3 divorces (American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers in 2003 - "At a 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, two thirds of the 350 divorce lawyers who attended said the Internet played a significant role in the divorces in the past year, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half such cases. Pornography had an almost non-existent role in divorce just seven or eight years ago." (
Statistics on Child Pornography Use:
• 9 out of 10 children aged between the ages of 8 and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet, in most cases unintentionally (London School of Economics January 2002).
• Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography: 11 years old (Internet Filter Review).
• Largest consumer of Internet pornography: 12 - 17 year-old age group (various sources, as of 2007).
• Adult industry says traffic is 20-30% children (NRC Report 2002, 3.3).
• Youth with significant exposure to sexuality in the media were shown to be significantly more likely to have had intercourse at ages 14 to 16 (Report in Paediatrics, April, 2006).
"Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent (and obscene) material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions."
- U.S. Department of Justice, Post Hearing Memorandum of Points and Authorities, at l, ACLU v. Reno, 929 F. Supp. 824 (1996).

Statistics on Online Perpetrators:
• 1 in 7 children who use the internet have been sexually solicited - 2005. (Internet Filter Review)
• 1 in 4 kids participate in Real Time Chat. (Family PC Survey, 2000).
• 1 in 5 children (10 to 17 years old) receives unwanted sexual solicitations online (Youth Internet Safety Survey, U.S. Department of Justice, 2001).
• 2 in 5 abductions of children ages 15-17 are due to Internet contact (San Diego Police Dept.).
• 76% of victims in Net-initiated sexual exploitation cases were 13-15, 75% were girls. "Most cases progressed to sexual encounters" - 93% of the face-to-face meetings involved illegal sex (Journal of Adolescent Health, November 2004).

Father help me to remain “unspotted” from this world. To have true religion - that lives for others and does not seek pleasure at the “expense” of others. Use me to reveal just who You really are to others. Never to forget the frailty of my own humanity! Don’t let me become just another “statistic” who claims to be “outraged” by the very same thing that “entices” me (James 1:14). Keep me pure in the midst of impurity. Keep me sincerely affective for You. Amen.

Today You are my standard. Nothing is greater than You Father. I seek and pursue Your Kingdom and Your Righteousness “FIRST” above all other things. By Your Spirit I am free. Where Your Spirit is, there is liberty... (2 Cor 3:17) Even from my own humanity! You have endlessly empowered me and I gladly remain within Your love.


Motto: ‘God Chooses, then the Spirit Tests, but You Must Respond!’

Copyright 2010 © Alan Pateman Ministries

Wednesday, 24 November 2010

The Goddess and Feminist Catholicism

The Goddess and Feminist Catholicism
(Fifth in this Series)

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honour God with your body (1 Cor 6:18-20 NLT).

In today’s article including the one directly following this, we are going to look at some more statistics centred around the “demand-for” and “consumption-of” - pornography. After that we will conclude this whole series “The Seduction of Women” with an article concerning the mounting and controversial subject of “homosexuality.” For sexuality in general (despite orientation) – is high on the devil’s agenda for the culmination of this age. In fact “paganism” as it existed in centuries gone by – is still prevalent today; promoting sexual debauchery and intensifying its depravity. So let’s take a look at what Wanda Marrs says about this particular subject; “The Goddess & Feminist Catholicism.”

To begin with she says, “The extent to which the Goddess Religion of the New Age has penetrated many Christian Churches and pseudo - Christian Churches is remarkable, if not astonishing. Its invasion is especially notable...” To their credit, some Catholics themselves are very alarmed at the chain of events now occurring. In the conservative Catholic magazine ‘Fidelity’ some time ago was a fascinating and revealing article, “The Goddess Goes to Washington”, in which Donna Stieichen reported that in Washington, D.C, some 2500 people met for a ‘Women in the Church’ conference. Most were nuns many of whom were clad in their habits and their veils. “The conference was an incredible event, a gala that affirmed the coming Goddess Religion!”

It appeared to be the consensus of the 2500 Catholic nuns, priests, educators and theologians present that Christianity needs to be ‘corrected’ by incorporating the Mother Goddess and her rituals within its institutions. One Catholic sister, Madonna Kolbenschlag, gave a blistering address to the conference. She encouraged the participants “in the name of our elder brother, Jesus” to “be a scandal” to the current system of Christianity which promotes the “male” God!

“The myth of the Father God”, said Sister Kolbenschlag, “is largely a product of the Judeo Christian tradition. The Holy one who is truth is beyond all images.” According to Nun Kolbenschlag, whose address was widely and enthusiastically received by the audience, the male God of Christianity is a ‘false God’ who has ‘created the world we live in’. It is therefore necessary, she urged, to create a “spirituality of a different kind... we must recreate a “new myth” of God.” She then called for a return to the ancient “Goddess religion.” What she really desired was a combining of the Goddess and the God into one and went on to say, “Women are clearly the catalyst for the formation of the new spirituality. It is women above all who are in the process of reversing Genesis, turning the myth on its head - and freeing their sexuality. Finally, to cheers and applause she trumpeted this conclusion: “The holy one is breaking through the consciousness of humanity - as the Goddess.”

The priests who assembled at this conference commended the female speakers. Bishop Francis Murphy, Auxiliary of Baltimore, stated, “They are brilliant women.” Murphy said, “The Church has to incorporate a lot of modern insights.” Such men as Bishop Francis Murphy and Father David Power and the other male leaders present were not at all embarrassed with the proceedings. They did not even blink when Sister Kolbenschlag remarked. “Women have always experienced the inner connection of sexuality, affectivity, religious zeal, and the creative impulse. And so we have to ignore the Great Lie that denies this”.

Another Catholic theologian prominent in the Goddess movement is Matthew Fox. In his book, ‘The Coming of the Comic Christ’ Fox writes that the Christian church is dying. “It is dying because it has rejected the “mother-principle.” Fox continued to say, “though we love her (the Church) dearly we should let her die.” Fox envisions a new church being born today out of the rubble of the Christian Churches; a church that will gloriously uplift the Mother, the Goddess and the feminine principle. “It’s necessary” he writes, “that we all become our Mother’s keeper. Mother earth can be awakened;” he assures us, though “her pain is great now.”

At this point it is easy to see where “spirituality and sexuality” get all mixed up. The following statistics show-case the increase of sexuality right across the board, (not only within the church but beyond) as a result.

Concerning the following statistics however, the various companies who do the necessary “math” behind such statistics – centring on the “demand for” and the “consumption of” pornography - take considerable time compiling their information. Therefore statistics can alter relatively quickly, in between time – so bear this in mind as you read the general figures represented below; undoubtedly they will have increased significantly! Nevertheless - separated by a handful of years - these statistics are still staggering and give us a glimpse into the “enormity” of the problem and pornography in general. These figures are compiled by various credible sources such as “news” and “research” organizations and provide us with “proof” that porn in today’s world is “scarcely-avoidable.” Despite the fact that many folks do genuinely land on porn sites “by-accident” (while searching for something else) this is not an excuse that everyone else can use; especially “repeat-users,” “sexual-predators” and “sex-addicts.”

• Every second $3,075,64 is being spent on pornography.
• Every second 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography. In that same second 372 internet users are typing in adult search terms into search engines.
• Every 39 minutes a new pornographic video is being created in the U.S.
• It is big business. The pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple, and Netflix combined.
• For example in 2006 Worldwide pornography revenues ballooned to $97.06 billion.

Whatever way we look at this topic, “pornography” is an ever growing phenomenon which is creating as many “sexual-predators” as “sexual-victims.” It is an epidemic of our “age” – yet perhaps the saddest and most disturbing of all - are those statistics that specifically involve children.

In closing; we must consider our opening scripture very carefully because folks in general do not realise that when they commit sexual sins, they sin against their own bodies; violating their “entire-being” and influence their “whole-lives” that wreaks long term havoc on the natural bodies. Every generation pays a significant price for the perpetual sins passed down on each successive generation.

Father thank You that I am a temple of Your Holy Spirit, nothing should violate that! However, Your cleansing and forgiveness is part of my life. You have brought purity where there was none. You restored holiness to this temple. What You did for me, you can do for anyone. Thank you Father for restoration and healing, for all those who come to You in Jesus name. Amen.

Father You are my freedom from sexual vice. Nothing is impossible for you. You forgave and cleansed me of all unrighteousness.


Motto: ‘God Chooses, then the Spirit Tests, but You Must Respond!’

Copyright 2010 © Alan Pateman Ministries

Tuesday, 16 November 2010

Sex Will Be Prominent In The End Times

Sex Will Be Prominent In The End Times
(Fourth in this Series)

Don't be naive. There are difficult times ahead. As the end approaches, people are going to be self-absorbed... profane... addicted to lust, and allergic to God. They'll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they're animals.”
(2 Timothy 3:4 The Message Bible)

Welcome back! Here we are again to continue our theme concerning the end time seduction of women; a teaching series that many of you seemingly appreciate (if all the feedback we are receiving is anything to go by!) So to carry on where we left off – it is true to say that the New Age Movement in particular is capturing tens of thousands of women’s souls specifically through sexual lies. Sex, of course, is a big “draw” throughout society as a whole. Sexual images and erotic fantasies permeate our lives. We cannot turn on our television set or open the pages of a newspaper or woman’s magazine without coming face-to-face today with the graphic nature of sexual enticements and inducements. The New Age has mastered the art of inciting lust and unbridled passion in the heart of women.

Wanda Marrs says, “This is a religion that has as its core the same unholy practices that were prevalent in Babylon, Egypt, Rome, Greece and throughout the orient. In the centuries before Christ, and in the first centuries after Jesus’ first coming, history is replete with the story and descriptions of the fertility rites and the sexual favours granted by the high priestesses in the temple of such cities as Corinth, Athens, Ephesus and Memphis.”

Initiates celebrate the sex act with temple prostitutes, many of whom came from the aristocratic class - from the very cream of society. In Ephesus and elsewhere, the cult of Diana encouraged sexual license and sacred promiscuity. The idolatrous state of Diana depicted her with a multitude of breasts, signifying her sensual nature. In Egypt, the sensual nature of the mother Goddess, Isis, was also worshipped in fertility rites.

Hislop wrote that Semiramis, the Babylonian ‘Queen of heaven’, led a licentious life and gave birth to many illegitimate children. Yet, the people grew to worship her as the ‘Holy Virgin’. In the Goddess religions, it was thought that sacred and ritual sex cleansed and purified; therefore the term ‘Virgin’ was used, though its meaning is obviously far different than that envisioned by Christians.

The Roman emperors Nero and Caligula, who professed belief in Roman gods derived from the Mystery cults of Babylon and Pergamos, were given to sexual orgies and incredible acts of debauchery and sexual depravity. Homosexuality and pederasty (child abuse) was rampant throughout the Roman Empire and especially in Greece were the normal practice of heterosexuality (male-female) was even sneered at by many of the affluent class and nobility.

Remember the New Agers who practice Tantric yoga actually believe that sexual union - in or out of marriage - bring spiritual communion with the divine energy forces of The Universe. Those involved in witchcraft and Satanism consecrate themselves to Satan through ritual sex orgies.

Marilyn Fergusion, in the New Age classic ‘The Aquarian Conspiracy’, enthusiastically reports that for many New Agers, sex outside of marriage is the wave of the future. She says that the traditional view of fidelity of ‘one man - one woman’ has given way to more ‘liberated’ views. Quoting sociological experts, Ferguson adds that, “the New Age generation is free from guilt over sex!”

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‘1987 International Seth Seminar’, Seth, an international network of groups composed of disciples of “Seth,” a demon, channelled by psychic Jane Roberts. This demon teaches that, “the universe is of good intent; evil and destruction does not exist...we create our own reality — literally — through the beliefs we hold, and therefore can change what we don’t like.” In a recent leaflet published by the Seth Centre, the group stated its main ideas regarding sex as follows: “We are in this to enjoy ourselves - spirit, mind and body. If it isn’t fun, stop doing it...! It is natural to be bisexual. Heterosexuality, homosexuality and lesbianism are equally worthwhile and valid sexual orientations... There is no authority superior to the guidance of a person’s inner self.”

Miriam Starhawk and her Church of Wicca (witchcraft) no doubt agree with the followers of Seth. Starhawk’s views of sexuality exactly parallel the wicked doctrines and fertility ritual of the Babylonian Mystery cults. Among these decadent views is the astonishingly depraved idea that sexual license is godly. Starhawk expresses this view as follows: “Sexuality is sacred because it is a sharing of energy, in passionate surrender to the power of the goddess, immanent in our desires. In orgasm we share in the force that moves the stars.”

Starhawk teaches that witchcraft is the same as the Goddess religion. ‘The goddess’, she says “is the liberator...and her service is complete freedom”. She also emphasises, the connection for today’s New Age woman with the sexuality of the goddess: “The naked body represents truth...the law of the goddess is love: passionate sexual love... The love goddess is unconditional... Any act based on love and pleasure is a ritual of the goddess. Her worship can take any form and occur anywhere: it requires no liturgy, no cathedrals, and no confessions.”

All this is a far cry from the truth, in fact the Bible makes it quite clear in Gal 5:19- 21 that those who indulge in:“sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissension's, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like... will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

The following is an excerpt taken from an article written by Robert Eady called “Satanism, Witchcraft and Church Feminists,” (Christian Order, February 1998). “Wicca & The Catholic Church: Straightforward Wicca or the similar but theologically more ambiguous ‘WomanChurch’ have moved into many areas of the Catholic Church through feminist "theologians," feminist-inspired local activists and disgruntled nuns. These Church feminists prey on weak or unorthodox bishops who in turn naively try to involve them in a Church they despise...

Two of the most influential "Catholic" Wiccan or “WomanChurch” figures to be found opposing the Church today are Mary Daly and Rosemary Radford Ruether. Ex-nun Mary Daly teaches lesbian witchcraft. She has written several books, including the anti-male and anti-Catholic “Beyond God the Father” and “Wickedary,” a dictionary of sorts for witches... Dr. Rosemary Radford Ruether, an influential speaker and writer who authored Sexism and God-Talk, was named to the overtly pro-abortion Catholics for Free Choice board back in 1985. In true gnostic style, Reuther has described the "patriarchal" Church as an "idol of masculinity" to be broken up and ground into powder.”

Typical of most “WomanChurch” feminists, Ruether has no problem defying Church teaching on homosexuality. In 1985, when promoting her soon-to-be-released “Women-Church: Theology and Practice of Feminist Liturgical Communities,” Ruether promised a feminist - largely "Catholic" audience - that one chapter would contain liturgies for healing from painful experiences such as coming out as a lesbian. “Not that being a lesbian is unnatural, but that the way we've been repressed by homophobia is unnatural." At this same gathering she urged participants to establish female "base communities," "Women-Church groups," or "covens."

So as we can see there is much deception at large – and one of satan’s chief priorities is to pervert the role of women, not only in the church but in the world in general. He achieves this through seduction and many other forms of deception; sex being one of the most prominent tools that he uses in his hostility against women. We know from the beginning that satan has had a hatred for women; “GOD told the serpent: Because you've done this, you're cursed, cursed beyond all cattle and wild animals, Cursed to slink on your belly and eat dirt all your life. I'm declaring war between you and the Woman, between your offspring and hers. He'll wound your head, you'll wound his heel" Genesis 3:15 (The Message Bible).

Father my heart goes out to women in Your Church today. What you intended for beauty, satan seeks to pervert. What you intended as a “life-giver” satan wants to corrupt. Keep your daughters from deception and lead them into truth via your Holy Spirit. Your heart towards women is eternally perfect, You desire good for them, not evil and that they should have an expected end and a future! Amen (Jer 29:11).

Father today the world is at war with itself. There is no peace in this world, nor within people’s hearts, even though they cry “peace, peace!” Through it all women are targeted (in every culture and race) plus her offspring are targeted. Yet through Christ she is victorious – both male and female – are more than conquerors through Christ. For in God “there is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for we are all one in Christ Jesus.” We are equal in His sight Amen.


Motto: ‘God Chooses, then the Spirit Tests, but You Must Respond!’

Copyright 2010 © Alan Pateman Ministries

Friday, 12 November 2010

The Seduction of Women

The Seduction of Women

“It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex... If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God's kingdom” (Gal 5:19-21 The Message Bible).

Welcome to today’s Truth for the Journey which is the third in this series covering the end time seduction of women. In the last two previous articles: “The Preparation for Marriage not Promiscuity” and “The Paradox of Sex Education Unveiled,” we largely focused on the failure of the school system with their “sex education program” to prepare our young people for their futures. However both articles have been fairly “basic-knowledge” in their approach to this wide topic – consequently we will now “delve a little deeper” into what is behind all this and what is spiritually “fuelling” it, with these successive articles. After all the very nature of this type of subject “warrants” a greater understanding - as it is something that affects everyone of us not just the younger generations.

To achieve this “deeper delve” I have taken some teaching from one of my books, one that I wrote some ten years ago - a book that still requires publishing; entitled “Israel, The Church and The End Times!” From page 128 onwards this teaching introduces and discusses the spiritual warfare that is going on behind the scenes that the majority of the church is ignorant about. There is a New Age war going on, which is mainly targeting “young females,” although it promotes all kinds of perversion, including homosexuality (of which we will discuss at the end of this series!)

Mainly the New Age movement worships “Mother Earth” and of course brings the Catholic Church into its embrace because of the worship of “Madonna” as being the “Mother of all” and the “Creator of all.” We can even see how the new age movement has brought this emphasis of “mother-worship” into our living rooms through such “block-buster” films as “Avatar.” The whole theme was to protect Mother Earth (whom they called “Eywa”) – for instance healing came through her – and the suggestion was that we needed to become one in spirit with her. In addition romance was cleverly embraced within the story line – that captured everyone’s heart.

So let us continue and look at this New Age phenomena Mother goddess, the Sex Queen because according to Wanda Marrs the seduction of women is top priority on Satan’s hidden New Age agenda. Her startling book is perhaps the first to completely reveal the New Age campaign to deceive and seduce women. Satan knows that if he can capture the mind and body of a woman, he then can quickly move to conquer her husband, her children, her entire family and circle of friends.

In her book NEW AGE LIES TO WOMAN. Wanda Marrs thoroughly documents the almost incredible Plan of the New Age leadership to foster sexual immorality by inciting lust feelings and creating seductive imagery in women’s minds. She also explains how the New Age has successfully been able to damage and hurt women psychologically, break up marriages, lure our children into Satanism, cults and the occults, kill unborn babies, and undermine women’s faith in God.

Wanda says in her book (p107) that the Mother Goddess (Semiramis), “was also called the Queen of Heaven. She bedecked herself with jewels and gold and spread the doctrine that those who followed her and were initiated into the ‘Mysteries’ would be prosperous and gain abundant material wealth and enjoy sexual ecstasy as spiritual gifts from gods.

Drunkenness and merriment was a prime feature of worship as revellers lifted their cups and chanted praises to the goddess. Sexual orgies then followed a revealing of the Mysteries, the secretive, satanic doctrines that were taught by Babylonian priests and priestesses. Today, the sexual ritual and licentiousness of Babylon are back, introduced into modern-day society by the New Age.”

It is interesting that in Italy, a Country devoted to the Catholic Church, and committed to the worship of Madonna is also a country steeped in sexual immorality; with pornography readily available at “every” book store - including prostitution on every street corner. There has even been a worldwide paedophile scandal involving priests which has been portrayed on the international news media of late; even including protests for the resignation of the Pope.

This New Age agenda has been propagated also through the music industry – for sexually suggestive and occult scenes, violence, illicit sex and the occult seem to go hand in hand in many rock songs. “Heavy-metal groups’ take their listeners even farther out. One group, Judas Priest, on their album, ‘Defenders of the faith’, sang ‘Eat Me Alive’, the words depicting a girl being forced at gun point to commit oral sex. Even more explicit are the words of songs by groups like W.A.S.P.

For example, the lyrics of one of their songs spoke of pictures of naked ladies lying on the bed and the smell of sweet convulsion and about howling in heat and finally, about committing the sex act, like a beast” (‘Rock Is A Four Lettered Word,’ Time, Sept,30, 1985. p70).

Another clear example of the negative moulding power of pop idols was the claim by a child-pornography expert. In report to the United Press International, Judith Reisman said the following:

“Pictures encourage child pornography. You’re dealing with an idol or heroine who carries with her a great deal of power and symbolism. For example, Madonna is seen as a desired being in society, so all young women want to be desired; they want to achieve. If the nude pictures are described in popular magazines as appropriate, desirable behaviour, then youngsters, both girls and boys, will construe that to be the case. Large numbers of them will. Thus the pictures will encourage voluntary displays by youngsters. That is not good.

As far as the negative sexual problems, one newsmagazine reported that women all too often are portrayed as ‘bimbos’. They undress in silhouette; stretch out over car hoods and snarl like animals. Their dress includes fishnet and leathers (Women in a Video Cage, p54).

At the time of writing my book some ten years ago I included the likes of Madonna. But of course today we can add an array of others who have “progressed” or “regressed” since Madonna’s prime – such as Lady Gaga and many others – in the context of helping to “pervert” the masses. However according to my book it said that in 1989 Madonna’s hit video ‘Like a Prayer’ abounded with religious imagery and blasphemous overtones. The video begins in a church setting as Madonna sensually caresses the feet of a statue of a black Catholic saint. The icon sheds tears and comes to life. She picks up a dagger, touches the blade and the palms of her hands begin to bleed, emulating the super-superstition of ‘stigmata,’ (a supernatural event which many erroneously believe signifies God’s blessing upon an individual). Madonna dances in a field of burning crosses in little more than a slip and is seductively kissed by the ‘saint’ character. There is even a scene implying lesbian activity on the church’s altar with a choir member!

Huge advertisements that hung in record stores across America, which peddled the ‘Like A Prayer, LP’ had the inscription, ‘Lead Us Not To Temptation.’ Also the singer went as far as to have “Patchouli” (West Indian fragrance) mixed in with its packaging glue, “scented to simulate church incense” (see, a significant marketing technique employed by Madonna. Her publicist, Liz Rosenberg could hardly cover up the stench the video created (USA Today, March 30th, 1989. PD1).

Father today I reach out and pray for all those trapped in sexual deception; those who have fallen for “guilty pleasures” and opened their lives to depravity and perversity. Open their eyes to Your truth Lord and set the captives free – in Jesus Name. Amen.

Father I thank You that You are touching people’s lives and that those who are entangled in sexual sin will be set free right NOW. I command their eyes to be opened in Jesus name – that the yoke of bondage may be broken and destroyed. Holy Spirit move upon your people. We pray a cleansing in Your Church. Let Your fire purge and Your holiness prevail.


Motto: ‘God Chooses, then the Spirit Tests, but You Must Respond!’

Copyright 2010 © Alan Pateman Ministries

Tuesday, 9 November 2010

The Paradox of Sex Education Unveiled

The Paradox of Sex Education Unveiled

To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted (Titus 1:15 NIV).

Welcome once again to “Truth for the Journey!” In the last article we discussed the subject of teenage promiscuity and the premature “sexualisation” of our young people; violating their intended time (Eccl 3:11). Today as we look further into this, we can see the huge irony or contradiction that emerges around this whole subject. For example, those things set in place to “aid and assist” our young people with advice about “safe sex” actually opens then up to greater heart ache in later life.

Take for instance any young person, who has been encouraged into promiscuity and sexual activity who then commits to become a Christian and eventually marries another Christian. For a while everything seems great, until this same person who once enjoyed such sexual freedom as a “former-fornicator,” now finds themselves experiencing all kinds of sexual “hang-ups.” Past experiences and comparisons haunt their mind - with flashbacks and shameful memories. In addition they find that guilt and condemnation now “shut-them-off” to sex, when they should be enjoying “free and unhindered passion” with their ordained partner. Needless to say such “shutting down” sexually causes the couple great heart ache and frustration.

It’s evident then that two basic “lies” prevail. The first is aimed at the single non-Christian, “forget abstinence and restraint, live life while you are still young..!” The second is aimed at the young married Christian couple, “Pull yourselves together and don’t be so lustful. Sex is sinful – have some restraint…!” This sells the message that sexual ‘all-out-ness’ is right for the “fornicator” but wrong, shameful (perhaps even, “out of the will of God…”) for the believer! Listening to either lie will rob these youngsters of the beauty and blessing intended for sex.

In addition to all this, the young Christian wife gets pushed this idea; “Hey, hold on here don’t you know that you don’t ‘have’ to have sex whenever ‘he’ wants it… who does he think he is anyway. You don’t have to submit to ‘him’ – don’t give yourself to ‘him,’ your body belongs to ‘you’ …” etc. Which is directly out of line with scripture (see 1Peter 3:1-7; Eph 5: 22-33, Col 3: 18-20) For the Christian marriage - the couple, out of a loving and intimate relationship - submit to one another in love (Ehp 5:21 KJV).

My wife tends to prefer the Message Bible for this particular scripture because it takes “religion” out of it. So let’s take a look at Eph 5:21-33, “Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another. Wives understand and support your husbands... The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing... wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting... His words evoke her beauty... that is how husbands ought to love their wives... loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband (Eph 5: 21-33 The Message Bible).
To continue isn’t it funny that a lot of young girls today are being enticed, seduced and encouraged to “submit” themselves - through promiscuity - to their boyfriends or male admirers, without reserve! Without objection and dazed by promiscuity they “submit their bodies” to lust through “random” partners via premature sexuality and adulthood!

Then with the seduction of nightclubs and fun bars, where fornication is “normalcy” and promoted through seductive and atmospheric music with the drunken haze that surrounds it all! “Submission” is never an issue in such settings where scantily clad and provocative young ladies submit their bodies quite readily to lust! After all “fornication” is more about seeking the fulfilment of one’s “own” pleasure rather than seeking to “give” it meaningfully to someone else.

It is an accepted fact today that most young men and women who go to night clubs and such places, are going with the intention of sex. Especially young women earn this reputation and have it taken for granted that if they go to such places they are “prepared” for sex. They dress sexy, they yield to the sexy atmosphere and in addition they “fuel” this with drugs and alcohol to help “enhance” the mood and “numb” any youthful inhibitions.

But what is encouraged while in the world is then discouraged in marriage. Sexual readiness is suddenly seen as something “else” and as a result “spontaneity” rapidly goes out of the window! In other words, outside of the drunken haze and night club atmosphere; and back in the mundane “status-quo” of everyday living - couples find themselves “stifled” and no longer “free.” ALL THIS MEANS THAT THEY HAVE BEEN “SCHOOLED” AND “PREPARED” FOR FORNICATION BUT NOT FOR MARRIAGE! This travesty makes it very difficult for them to know how to respond within a different set of boundaries – called marriage. In fact everything they learn at school undermines the institute of marriage. The big green light for premarital sex and promiscuity sets them up for a fall when it comes to marriage. What is satan’s agenda? To “destroy” society as we know it.

So as we apply this to ourselves and not just to the youth of our society, we can see that this entire subject is entirely on its head! In other words “upside down” because of an almighty “clash” or “conflict” in interests. The devil’s says, “Be free in fornication!” while God’s says, “Be free only in marriage.” Yet the truth is that for many who indulged in fornication before marriage– have difficulty being free inside marriage. The reality is that what the devil calls freedom is really bondage. However a person can be set free from their past; through Christ old things can “pass-away” and all things can be made “new” in Him – including God’s “best” being restored to them (2 Cor 5:17).

In God we are free. There is no bondage in Christ. An important realization for some folks is that, while the spirit of this world belches out, “Have sex without restraint…” This also is actually God’s “command” yet “within marriage” – as marriage is the only ordained and correct setting for “safe sex!” That’s right, you read right! Without restraint is God’s command “within” marriage. Think about it, we were told not to “with hold” ourselves from one another…!” Again the reality is this - everything that the world is seeking for in sex, is available right in the midst of what God ordained. And what the world considers ‘sexual liberation’ usually involves much bondage. On the other hand – those who operate in the fullness of what God has ordained for them are the ones who experience true sexual freedom!

Now for some folks this is precisely where the struggle “begins!” Why? Because the devil has managed to convince many that it’s wrong to be “sexy” and “godly” at the same time! This of cause throws an enormous “wet-blanket” on the subject of sex. However sex was created for pleasure not for shame, guilt or regret – Hallelujah.
Perverting generations before they ever get the chance to enjoy marriage in the way God intended is Satan’s way of, ‘stealing, killing and destroying’ our inheritance – God’s best for his children in ALL things. He looks to confuse our perception of the Father’s highest and best, in this important area.

The serpent’s nature is always to seduce and tempt. But it does not stop there. He also indulges in “condemning” and “accusing.” His master plan is to “seduce” and to “lure” people into sin – once they respond and are led away of their own lush (see James 1:14) he proceeds to enjoy tormenting them with the guilt and shame of their actions afterwards…! As a liar and the father of lies satan has always made such a huge deal out of sex. Why? Because it poses such a threat to him and if he can successfully convince us that something pure is perverse – this means we can no longer enjoy it. Conversely if he can convince the world that only “perversity” is enjoyable and purity is boring – then they stay aloof. But we know deception is his game – and we are enlightened amen!

Finally in closing – there can be no mistake - we have been ordained to live life to the full and more abundantly – this excludes no area of life. In Christ we are free in all things. Amen!

Father I am Yours. My body is Yours. I fear nothing but You! I live in the liberality that comes only by Your Spirit. I am not liberal as the world calls it. But I am liberal by Your Spirit. I am free because of Your Son - in EVERY area of my life. Amen.

Those the Son set free are free in deed. I have complete freedom in every area of my life. I want no “hang-ups” and I chose to be free in the area of sex. The world feeds us with a false perception of sex. But everything that You ordained for us to enjoy is pure in its origin. I glorify You the Giver of life and all good things. Nothing is perverse in You and to the pure all things are pure (Titus 1:15) Hallelujah.


Motto: ‘God Chooses, then the Spirit Tests, but You Must Respond!’

Copyright 2010 © Alan Pateman Ministries

Friday, 5 November 2010

“Preparation” - for Marriage not Promiscuity!

“Preparation” - for Marriage not Promiscuity!

“God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity” (1 Thess. 4:3 The Message Bible)

Hello dear readers! As I was thinking about today’s “Truth for the Journey” I was thinking about my 15 year old son who told me recently how the girls in his class were constantly talking about sex and who they are having it with! (This is just 14 and 15 year old girls!) He added, “Dad in my class, when it comes to sex... the girls are the worst!” Sadly this says a lot but I am not sure that it is shocking any more. People come to expect it and are numb to the realities and consequences of such promiscuity.

In addition during my son’s “sex education” classes, they were encouraged to go home and do “home work” via the internet on the subject! However it doesn’t take a genius to know that if a child types “sex” into their internet browser at home – nothing other than pornography will come up! So now we have entire generations of youngsters faced with “hard-core pornography” – in response to their teacher’s behest and encouragement at school! Bizarre! So I advise “all” parents to supervise their children with computer access, using “family protective software” and “accountability programs” that are available. Because as we can see already, this phenomena does not just influence boys! Female teenagers are very promiscuous in deed.

In fact it seems that in the world today, when one is “setting-out” in life as a young male or female, all the encouragement that one may need to “fornicate” is readily available! Via many avenues such as TV, peer pressure, school environment, radio, MTV, contemporary song lyrics not forgetting “most” of today’s advertising campaigns! Who all thrust the “sex-now-message” in their faces..! Such as; “Forget about abstinence and withholding yourself for marriage, that is old fashioned and archaic…! In the past it was bondage and conservatism but now today we have “liberalism” – so don’t be old fashioned. Be free, express yourself, be “normal,” stop being “frigid” and do what comes “naturally.” Flow with the chemistry and HAVE SEX NOW… What are you waiting for? Do it whenever you feel like it, ignore your conscience if you have one (that’s only for nuns!) You are “young” and you only live once, so live large! Hold nothing back. Throw away all restraint and have sex “whenever,” “wherever” with “whoever.” As long as it ‘feels’ right - it ‘must’ be right!” However the only responsible “restraint” they put on this “spin” - goes something like this; “When you do have sex just make sure you put ‘safety first’ and equip yourself everywhere you go - with the latest most colourful and scented condoms!”

It’s got to be said, that in today’s world, if a young school leaver, leaves school with no other qualifications, at least they’ve learnt how to have‘…safe sex!’ But what a legacy we have left our children, what a warped set of priorities we are teaching the “up and coming” generations. It’s true, sadly that today, in our schools our young people, only in their early teens are being so freely informed about sex, to the extent that it is really teaching them ‘how’ to go about it! OK… young horny teenagers hardly need any encouragement in these matters and if no one talked about it in the schools, no one’s saying they wouldn’t get up to it any way – they would. But, while some are more than ready to indulge their senses and get home tutoring of a sort, from older siblings, there are others who are just not ready. We have to ask the question, “Are we allowing the introduction of our youngest and dearest to the world of sex before they’re ready?”

Satan cleverly uses the ‘trusted’ school system, to cunningly seduce the young out of their innocent ignorance into full blown promiscuity by informing and convincing them in a sophisticated and educated manner that it’s okay because “times have changed.” In fact it’s just “old school, old hat & old fashioned” to think any other way! So be “progressive” in your thinking, come to an educated decision by yourselves, don’t let old “fundamentalist” views stifle your freedom, just be properly informed, know the risks, know what’s involved, take the right precautions, and then just let go… have sex… lose your virginity and quick…!”

Evidently through the guise of EDUCATION we have allowed our youth to be encouraged into sexual activity - whether they’re ready or not - deleting the natural sense of “caution” or “fear” that young people have about sex. Presenting them with the argument such as this; “If you do it safely, it eliminates the risks and if there are no risks, there is no longer any need for fear.” And basically when you take the fear out of it, what’s stopping them!? All this effort is put in to open the average youth “wide-open” – not for the Gospel - but for abuse!

But some would defend the current situation with the argument, “Oh but you fundamentalists are stifling our youth, they need to be able to express themselves and be free. Leave them alone, don’t you realise that the legalism of your fundamental views are the problem here – lighten up!” Does this make us fundamental? YES! Does it make us legalistic? NO! God wants us to enjoy sex. Yes that’s correct – “ENJOY IT!” It was created for our pleasure (as seen in 1Tim 6:17b) and was a marriage gift from God to the married couple. A “gift” that was to be opened on the wedding night and not before! But when finally “opened” in its right time - was to be “fully enjoyed” but kept sacred before God.

Consider it this way; if we were never meant to “enjoy” sex, then God would not have made it pleasurable but instead just a “reproductive process” that we had to “endure” every now and then just to ensure the ongoing growth of the world’s population! In other words God could have created sex for “necessity” and “pro-creation” alone – void of any involvement of “pleasure!” But thankfully God didn’t do things that!

I know this labours the point a little however there are just so many occasions where “pleasure” is seen in a negative light, yet God Himself “created” pleasure on every level, including sex as we are discussing here. However extremes do exist and as the scriptures say, people begin to worship pleasure rather than the giver of the pleasure. We see this in 2 Tim 3:4 where it says, “... men shall be lovers of their own selves… unthankful... lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God.” How often does humanity worship the beauty of “nature” - yet deny its “Divine Artist.” In fact 1 Timothy 6:17 says that He is, “...the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy” and “life more abundantly” in John 10:10. In addition God created a “special-safety-net” with which to protect sex – the boundary and institute of marriage.

But then, we are sold the lie, at the very young and impressionable age and very often by those who should know better, that we …need to experiment, sow our oats, get a little “experience” before we settle for the right partner in life… to discover which one is sexually compatible! What a lie, when do we stop experimenting and where do we draw the line? It is in all these things that young or single people need to put their faith and trust fully in God and decide that "God is their source, for everything including the compatibility of their future partner.” And this does require real TRUST, and a prayerful willingness to wait until He reveals who, where, when and how.

Experimentation and promiscuity only leads to confusion, comparisons, hurts, and a whole host of other obstacles that creates heavy baggage that we take with us into marriage. Robbing young couples of the God intended intimacy of their relationship – and infiltrating it with a mixture of lust, pain, hurt and abuse.

So it is paramount then that we chose wisely for our children between the school of “fornication” and the school of the “Holy Spirit!” The harvest of fornication is manifold: abuse, hurt, pain, division, divorce, infidelity, child abuse, pornography, illegitimacy; which produces multitudes with an orphaned spirit and an identity crisis! But Revelations 2:20 warns us that Jezebel’s intentions wont cease – still today this spirit actively looks to “educate” and “entice” folks to commit sexual sins… nothing has changed – she still looks “…to teach… fornication (sexual immorality)…” (KJV Emphasis added)

There is balance to everything – so I must add here that teaching our children about sex is not wrong! Of course not…But as believers our agenda for sex education is completely different than that of the world; PREPARATION FOR “MARRIAGE” NOT PROMISCUITY

I dare say that, as Christian parents we can see that there’s a LINE here somewhere! There’s a whole lot of difference between just “informing” and “aiding and abetting!” I am sure that most parents, Christian or otherwise, once having discussed the delicate but necessary subject of sex with their child, wouldn’t dream of pulling out a condom, show them how to use it and then give them a small stock of them “just in case!” And needless to say, if we did, especially in Christian homes, this would send a really confusing message to our children, red, green and amber all at once!

Father put a hedge of protection around our children today. When temptation does arise - let the power of Your “conviction” be with them. Show them Your plans for their future; concerning relationships and eternal destiny. Help them to discover their true potential in You and the compatible life-partner who will measure up with Your will for their lives. Amen.

Father I confess that I will take my place as a godly parent and will help my child/ren to discover the fullness of life as You intended without promiscuity or fornication. I will encourage godliness in our home and will not allow any open doors (spiritually) that will expose my family to uncleanness where you intended purity.


Motto: ‘God Chooses, then the Spirit Tests, but You Must Respond!’

Copyright 2010 © Alan Pateman Ministries

Wednesday, 3 November 2010

Overcoming Strife and Contention

Overcoming Strife and Contention

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger,
lest they be discouraged (Col 3:21 KJV)

Welcome to today’s Truth for the Journey: “Overcoming Strife and Contention.” This is a subject that affects all of us and something that our adversary likes to entrap us with. Strife and Contention can enter our lives with extreme subtlety to the point that we don’t notice until it’s too late; we’ve fallen for it again! So let’s take a look at how we can reverse if not resist the effects of strife and contention altogether. Especially in our marriages and within our ministries for those of us who have them! We will take some simple scriptures to illustrate this and we will start with our opening scripture Col 3: 21 which uses the word “provoke.” Provoke in the Greek language is the word “erethizo” which means: to stimulate, especially to anger. This compound word is also connected with another Greek word, “eris” meaning: a quarrel…wrangling, contention, debate, strife and variance.

Wrangling, causing strife and contention or getting into “hard debating” with one another is never good, but especially not with our children – it is not God’s method of parenthood nor is it His best for them. His way is “nurture” not “control.” For instance we cannot “control” our children into obedience; rather we must “nurture” them into obedience! There is a big difference between the two but the same goes for “any” relationship. All relationships need nurturing and massaging but certainly not controlling! “Provocation” in the negative sense is always detrimental - especially when it comes to our children. Important enough to warrant mention in the New Testament – where we are warned not to “provoke” even our children. But let’s face it – in every relationship - opportunity certainly arises for strife!

Nonetheless the upbringing of our children is evidently of great significance to God. Not only are they His children also but they represent the next generation of revivalists and preachers; history makers and reformers! Not Christendom’s next big celebrities but just boys and girls next door – who have enough of His spirit to be a valid witness for Him, on their own geographical door step – which is something valuable in God’s sight (it takes less courage to be dreamy about the nations where nobody “knows” you!)

Other words to describe “contention” would be: debate, controversy, dispute, disagreement, conflict and argument - all of which would be the exact opposite to “harmony!” We must continually ask ourselves uncomfortable questions like this; “what is it that I am doing on a daily basis to help promote harmony amongst my family and friends?” We can’t afford to wait for everyone else to make it happen. Where is our own contribution happening? In fact we should be the “first” to contribute! Another question could be, “Am I always drawn to controversy? If the answer is yes then there is evidently something out of balance somewhere. Yet sadly many folks lean towards the negative which is why strife exists in “most” homes and it takes a concerted effort by every member to eradicate or prevent strife from even entering the home. We must have a high ceiling of tolerance but low ceiling for strife of any kind!

Families have to adjust themselves constantly in order to accommodate all the changes going on in each individual who is constantly developing and growing. As believers our homes should be a sanctuary but very often they are a battle ground! Even though we declare salvation, regeneration and the fruits of the Spirit this can be the furthest from the truth! The reason is this, wherever the FLESH is in “control,” there will always be “corruption” as seen in Gal 6:8 “...he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption.” Or as the Amplified Bible says it: “... will from the flesh reap decay and ruin and destruction.”

Perhaps another good word for “corruption” would be “corrosion,” as relationships never just disintegrate over night but they do “corrode” over time. Again we often fail to notice until it’s too late. Corrosion of the family happens where strife has been permitted so much room – it may as well pay housekeeping like a live in lodger! Sounds funny – yet allowing strife to stretch its muscles too often in our homes – just leaves everyone feeling beat up and bruised all the time! Another question to ask would be, “Is there any peace in my home?” If the answer is continually, “No” – then it’s time to do something about it. The remedy can be found in James 4:7 where it says, “ subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will flee from you.”

Much can be said about children, especially teens; stirring up strife in the home but so can the parents! It might be the husband or the wife or both. For the wife/mother role in particular; a woman will discover that she is able to set the whole tone of the day for her household. She wields that kind of power! In fact a woman has the power to “set” or “off-set” the entire course of her family’s day – HOW? Simply by what comes out of her mouth “first-thing” every morning! (Good mood or bad - hormones or no hormones!) The same can be said of the husband/father role of course but a woman has particular power or influence in this area. Why? Because she has been specifically equipped by God to be a “nurturer,” “life-giver” (Eve), “nest-builder” and “homemaker...” But never was she designed to emasculate her male counterpart or usurp his God given role and position. Nor was she destined to provoke her family to despair! Either husband or wife can be guilty of this! But a woman is capable of bringing great vitality to her home or great oppression! (We will look at the man’s influence on the home in another article!)

In the light of the role that God has given to women – she is anointed with authority and grace (divine ability and know-how) to be a “life-giver” which was the Hebrew meaning for the name Eve. Every woman has the potential to be a life-giver not just through birthing children but in many ways, especially with her mouth! We all have the power of life and death in our tongues but for some reason God saw fit to equip women with a much more skilled articulacy than men – especially when it comes to their feelings! I say that without jest. Women are definitely gifted when it comes to words! But how easy it is to use our gifts in reverse!

A woman given to God can be especially radiant and can infuse life into her home simply by speaking life and encouragement over her loved ones; speaking those things that are not as though they already were (Rom 4:17) which speaks to their “now” as well as their “futures.” A godly woman will not just be self focused and concerned about articulating her own pain – but will be concerned about others. Chiefly the members of her “own” house hold. (It’s a crime when parents put on a show for others, this only shows children that their parents are more concerned about what others think, rather than about them).

In her “reverse” state (when a woman operates without the anointing) she can step into such a negative role. Instead of taking her place to “incite” faith in her family she is capable of doing the exact opposite. God spoke to Jeremiah in Chapter 1: 10; “The LORD reached out his hand and touched my mouth and said to me, “I have put my words in your mouth... to uproot and tear down, to destroy and overthrow, to build and to plant.” God has also touched the mouth of women to be like Eve – a “life giver” - with her words. But the woman who operates in the flesh can only uproot, tear down and destroy – she can only fail to build and to plant. Every woman should ask her family, “Do you feel built up by me or put down?” the answer could be very revealing! In fact Proverbs 14:1 says in the NIV; “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” In other words every woman has moral virtues and contrary vices but I prefer to say quite simply, that it is spirit verses the flesh!

Her house is not bricks and mortar, her house is the people in it just like a church is not a building but the believers it represents. To build her house means to build up her family by making them feel significant instead of insignificant. Inspiring rather than unwiring! By encouraging rather than discouraging - all by the ability that she possesses as a woman. Jezebel also possessed this unique ability as a woman, to “STIR UP & INCITE” but it was not for good. Instead she incited her husband to do evil. Women can “spur-their-families-on” or “talk-them-down.” Rouse “champions” or “loses” – she is a co-creator! Does she know just how powerful her role can be? Or does she allow satan to keep talking her out of her position – just as he did in the garden of Eden! Think about it. If Lucifer knew that (woman’s) Eve’s role was “life-giver” and his was to steal kill and destroy – all he had to do was convince her to do the opposite of what she was created to do! (His tactics have never changed). Yet 1 Peter 3:4-6 tells us that a woman should not give way to fear or allow herself to become “hysterical” or “worked up in fear” about anything! (Fear is a strong motivator for most women!) The Amplified Bible says it the best way in verse 6; “ right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].”

True tenderness is found in the Father heart of God and when it comes to our children; both parents should ask themselves “Would God ever treat these children the same way that I sometimes treat them?” This has the power to convict! God said to my wife on one occasion, when she was getting a little impatient with our small children one day when they were excessively fussing around before school, “I want you to treat these children to the best of your ability, the same way that I would treat you!” Needless to say this took her back and convicted her instantly!

In the Vine’s Dictionary the word “provoke” in our opening scripture means, “amiss, to make bitter.” But there is also a good side to provocation. For example one can be provoked towards truth. But provocation in the negative has the potential to “embitter” and to “STIR UP” what is negative in others (see 1King 21:25). All of us a times have incited each other through the flesh and even provoked our children a little at times because of pressures & frustrations. Every parent has fallen short…! But if people seem embittered everywhere we go – whether at home, in church or at work – it might be a good time to ask “could this be me who’s causing this?” or “Do I always get involved in an argument at work?” or “Do I always have to have the last say in everything?” or “Do I always stir things up…?” or “Do I find myself always stirring people up or do I speak the peace and love of God into every situation?” (These are good self-examining questions! Anyone unwilling to “self-adjust” is unwilling to change and expects everyone else to change instead - which is just another description of PRIDE!)

Finally repentance is at hand – especially if we have found ourselves yielding to strife more than God’s Spirit. Even consider this as we close - Jezebel, when left unchallenged, made other people’s lives a misery. If we function outside of God’s anointing we cannot bring life. Eve might mean “life-giver” in Hebrew but in the New Testament anyone who walks with the Holy Spirit can be a “life-giver” as seen here in our final scripture John 6:63 “It is the Spirit Who gives life [He is the Life-giver]; the flesh conveys no benefit whatever [there is no profit in it]. The words (truths) that I have been speaking to you are spirit and life.”

The Holy Spirit can use our words to build people up – He never breaks them down. He convicts and does not condemn as He is not the accuser of the brethren and nor does the role of “stealing, killing and destruction” belong to Him (John 10:10). So if we “build-people-up” it is easy to see who we are collaborating with! On the contrary if we are always negative and “pull-people-down,” it’s equally easy to see who we are NOT collaborating with – the Spirit of God! We are all capable of causing the same kind of grief and misery as Jezebel did. She knew not how to “bless” only to “manipulate” and “intimidate” those around her. People ran around franticly trying to “please” or to “avoid” her! Continual and unnecessary “provocation” wares people out. They “tire-easily” without the presence of God. Therefore we must allow the Holy Spirit alone to provoke people through us, with His LOVE. Amen!

Father forgive me for anytime that I have controlled those around me. Pulled them down and failed to life them up – especially the members of my own family. But today is day of great hope and expectation for me. Just as You have lavished me with Your love - help me by Your Spirit to be an “extravagant” lover of other people’s souls. Use me to “nurture-life” in others and not “stifle-life” in others. Use me to stir up love, never strife or contention. I want a legacy of love and tolerance not of misery. Amen.

You are love that endures forever. You have tenderness and consideration. Your resources never run dry and You are cultivating tolerance and long suffering in me. My behaviour is love-soaked and “tolerable” for others! Hallelujah!


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