Friday, 11 June 2010

Fulfilled Arrows of Destiny


“Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labour in vain.” (Psalm 127:1)

As a spiritual and natural father I have learnt that “children” whether natural or spiritual - must be released into their destinies and that we must not be fearful of “abandonment” but rather see that they must be shot like arrows into their destiny.

Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate (Psalm 127: 3-5).

However we can only shoot arrows that we have helped to shape! Shooting is a privilege that only belongs to true spiritual parents who have helped open their children’s windows of destiny! It is our job, as parents or leaders to help them into their future which at specific times involves being able to hear God with them and for them.

“Open the east window.” he said, and he opened it. “Shoot!” Elisha said, and he shot. “The Lord’s arrow of victory, the arrow of victory over Aram!” Elisha declared. “You will completely destroy the Arameans at Aphek.” Then he said, “Take the arrows,” and the king took them. Elisha told him, “Strike the ground.” He struck it three times and stopped. The man of God was angry with him and said, “You should have struck the ground five or six times; then you would have defeated Aram and completely destroyed it. But now you will defeat it only three times” (2 Kings 13:17-19).

We must always allow the young to keep growing, so that the next generations that are coming up can also be prepared to be shot into their destinies. Considering the further concept that as spiritual parents it’s important to perceive the correct timing for the eaglets to fly the nest! In the wild even the eaglets parents must recognise when their young eagle must learn to feed itself and the only way this happens is when the eaglet is pushed out of the nest! It sounds drastic but if this process is not fulfilled the result is death. Likewise for us in the church, spiritual death is the result. There are two ways the Church can die 1) No Evangelism or new birth. 2) Failure to release those who are ready to step into their destinies.

Obedience ceases when we stop hearing God for ourselves. Therefore we must learn. If this is not encouraged early on, an unnatural over dependence occurs. Many spiritual parents/leaders have brought death to their own churches, by forcing a false dependency to exist; due mainly to their own dysfunctions and fear of abandonment! Abandonment and Dysfunction are two main reasons why the Church ends up being “MY” Kingdom rather than “THY” Kingdom. Serving is good, but some Pastors have made the mistake of making their entire church servants of their own ministry rather than the other way round and finding out how to encourage them into their destinies.

How then should a leader respond when one of their members announces that they want to leave? Our response should be not to react out of rejection or hurt but to listen to the heart of the individual. Talk in context with the whole picture and try to help them understand the reason why they have come to their position of thought. Then it’s important to help them perceive whether this decision is genuine or due to some sort of demonic oppression or infiltration. The enemy also likes to sabotage people’s needful preparation by causing them to want to abort or eject prematurely! Young stallions like to buck remember!

However if it becomes apparent that as a leader there have been some genuine failings in some way, then we need to ask them for forgiveness, apologising for not doing enough to enhance them as an individual. Good leadership does not just involve issuing orders but also a good dose of humility! We lead by example remember and this also helps to humanize us in their eyes!

Then they could be asked to consider spending the next period of days in prayer, asking God to confirm the decision to leave or otherwise. This will reveal whether it was born out of a genuine personal need to be fulfilled or just pure emotion (remember there is no logic to emotion!) Either way it is paramount that the individual is assured that no matter what final decision they come to – they will not be rejected in anyway but rather fully supported and released into their destiny with prayer.

Their desire to leave must be met with blessing and not cursing! They are not of the devil just because they want to leave! Pray God’s best up on them. And make it clear that the door of the fellowship will always remain open. If not, then its, “MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY - SYNDROME!!!!” We must always remember that it is not our church. It is His church and love must always prevail. And while “theory” is good “practice” is always better! Even though not everyone is cooperative its regardless, we must make sure that from our side we always act out of maturity and not dysfunction. We must always seek to leave a spiritual legacy that will percolate like coffee in the hearts of others and continue to reverberate once all of the emotion has lifted. We achieve this by keeping step with the Holy Spirit and allowing the emotional dust to settle.

A pure heart will always check its own motives in order to keep it from acting immaturely, by keeping the best interests of others at heart and not just his own. This is the heart of a true parent and God can honour this; after all none of this is about point-scoring or side-taking but destiny. Everything must be kept in perspective.

Father I thank You today that I can act out of maturity when dealing with others and not out of my own dysfunction. Help me to keep the best interests of others at heart... secure in the knowledge that You have my best interests at heart. This releases me to function as I should and not out of hurt or disappointment. Help me to release others into their destiny. This is my aim as I fire them through the window of their destiny. Amen.

Destiny is something to be fulfilled and not just observe! Today I determine to help others reach their destiny and not just my own. The greatest amongst us is the servant of all and I choose God’s agenda above my own.


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